Cococello is Deb Pang Davis. Independent print and digital designer, educator and soon-to-be-author.


I Left Facebook

I had a Facebook friend who commented that it sounded like I was planning a funeral.

Leaving Facebook is nowhere near a funeral and I do feel a bit of sadness about it. It’s more like breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend. You know, the one who you’ve known isn’t quite a good match and you stayed in the relationship anyway.

But something at some point, gives you that extra push out the door. You know you’ve made the right decision and it doesn’t make it any easier.

Last night's announcement of Facebook’s Places feature sent me packing. I wasn’t sure at first so I posted that I was thinking about it; hoping for some encouragement to stay or to go. It was late. No one really noticed. I left.

It’s All About Sharing So What’s the Big Deal?

This isn’t about what I share with my network, social group, friends, family, the world at large because I can decide what I share. I determine what I post, tag or tweet. Having the tools to be able to do that is wonderful and amazing.

What I don’t like is that I can’t control what other people share about me. So far, there hasn’t been anything all that embarrassing and fortunately, my network has a lot of class (Thank you).

But Places takes this to another level. I personally don’t want people sharing where I am or what I’m doing. I want to share where I am and what I am doing – or not. Being tagged in pictures is one thing. Being “Checked In” by others in real time feels really uncomfortable.

I realize I risk the chance of missing out on a lot of interesting conversations, links, photographs, videos, etc. I’ll miss having a place to regularly connect with friends from as far back as grade school. I also risk losing any potential leads because I currently have a Facebook business page.

It’s a risk I’m willing to take.

As a business, I can only hope that the time I’ve spent on Facebook will be used to write more blog posts, send out an email newsletter, upload images to Flickr and yes, tweet more and spend more time on LinkedIn.

So far, the nearly 12 hours I’ve had my account deactivated (yes, Facebook doesn’t delete your account right away) feels incredibly liberating.

If you are one of my fans on Facebook, I’m sorry I had to leave and there are many other ways to keep connected.

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I’m going to continue to share links I think have value and I hope you will find useful. You can also follow me on Twitter.

If you are interested, these two posts by Dan Yoder at Rocket.ly are what helped to convince me to leave Facebook:

Top Ten Reasons You Should Quit Facebook

Why You Should Still Quit Facebook

And if you are interested in leaving Facebook, here’s How to Permanently Delete Your Facebook Account.

What I Learned This Week 8.20.2010

Photographer Crush: Joanna Totolici